I’m Not A Made-From-Scratch Mom [and that’s okay]

I’m Not A Made-From-Scratch Mom [and that’s okay]

As a breastfeeding mom, I spend a lot of late night hours scrolling down my Instagram and Facebook feeds.

Within those feeds, I see a lot of awesome moms who make things. Recipes, crafts, costumes, dolls, clothes – all kinds of things – from scratch.

I’ve always wanted to be able to do those things. I have so many creative ideas. But I lack the creative follow through.

I can bake, sure, but I need good ‘ol Betty Crocker to do so.

Meatloaf? Sure, can I run to Wal-Mart and grab one to heat up?

Want to make a shelf from recycled wood? Where they do that at?

It’s just not in me.

I wish it was.

I want to say, “I slaved over a hot stove all day,” or “Check out my signature stitch in this blouse.”

But you will never hear me say those words.

 

I'm not a made-from-scratch mom, and that's okay!

 

I’m not a made-from-scratch mom.

My grandmother used to make these amazing cakes and pies and biscuits all from scratch. She even made her own dresses, pillows, and whatever else she could think of. She made me a few dresses too (one had uneven sleeves).

My mother can do all those things too. I even asked to borrow her sewing machine recently because I desperately wanted to learn to sew.

That machine was back at her house within a month.

It’s not that I don’t want to learn these things. It’s just not in me.

I’m not that mom.

I absolutely applaud those that are.

No fresh made cupcakes will be at my children’s birthday parties. So sorry.

And you won’t find me doing cute crafty DIY projects with them either.

I’m just not a made-from-scratch mom.

And it’s okay!

I almost thought that I was a failure to my family because I wasn’t. I thought that I should be able to do those things as a mother and as a wife. I almost thought it was required of me.

But it’s not!

What is required is that I love my husband and my children.

I am required to give them my absolute best.

I am required to support them and be there for them.

I am required to be an example to my children and teach them right from wrong.

I am required to be a shoulder to lean on and a person they can trust.

I am also required to feed them- even if it was once frozen.

I don’t have to be perfect, just be the best mom I can be.

So no, I can’t make a pie, cake or biscuit from scratch. I can’t sew worth a lick. And I am the perfect poster mom for Pinterest DIY fails.

But what I can do, is show my family my unconditional love each and every day.

I used to strive to be perfect in my parenting. But I realized that as long as I do my best, my parenting is already perfect for my family.

“Hello. My name is Kristie, and I am a recovering perfectionist.”

 

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By | 2016-10-31T22:52:50+00:00 October 31st, 2016|Motherhood|51 Comments

About the Author:

Kristie is a mom of three kiddos, blogger, social media expert, and lover of all things pink and sparkly. She has a passion for helping moms become ceoMoms and following their dreams.

51 Comments

  1. Bekah November 1, 2016 at 11:25 am - Reply

    I don’t know how half the moms I see online do it either 🙂 Everyone has their gifts, you just make this mom thing work 🙂

  2. Kristina November 1, 2016 at 12:03 pm - Reply

    I can definitely relate to this. I have felt a lot of guilt about it, but I’m trying to let that go.

  3. Julienne November 2, 2016 at 9:27 am - Reply

    This is a good one! I used to be much more DIY , but these days I’m opting to allocate my time to other things (like my biz or spending time with my baby). I totally get where you’re coming from here!

  4. Alyssa November 2, 2016 at 10:03 am - Reply

    Love the message of this post! I think the era of Pinterest has made it difficult for people to be “real.”

  5. Lilly Garcia November 2, 2016 at 11:26 am - Reply

    Love your refreshing honesty! While I’m the type who loves making things from scratch, I definitely had to scale back and set more realistic expectations for myself once baby and business came along. And that’s totally ok!

  6. Kimi Clark November 2, 2016 at 12:30 pm - Reply

    Like I say, “I’m no Betty Crocker or Martha Stewart.” And that’s okay. Loved this post!

    • Kristie November 2, 2016 at 5:14 pm - Reply

      Lol def not a Martha! Thanks!

  7. Lori November 2, 2016 at 12:43 pm - Reply

    Sounds to me like you have your priorities straight. Good for you. I’ve wasted too much time trying to be the perfect whatever. Not anymore 😉

    • Kristie November 2, 2016 at 5:13 pm - Reply

      Me either, not anymore! GO YOU!

  8. Melissa @ Disco Bumblebee November 2, 2016 at 1:33 pm - Reply

    I needed to read this today! Thank you for that 🙂

    • Kristie November 2, 2016 at 5:10 pm - Reply

      You are so welcome Melissa! Thanks for reading!

  9. Marla | Because I Said So Baby November 2, 2016 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    This was a great read! Thanks for sharing 🙂 I agree – it’s hard to keep up with what we feel like we *should* be doing!

    • Kristie November 2, 2016 at 5:09 pm - Reply

      Thanks so much for your kind thoughts!

  10. Angela Tolsma November 2, 2016 at 2:14 pm - Reply

    I am not a mom. But I think posts like these are so important! I see all my friends who have all in the last year become mothers striving to be things they aren’t and I just want to yell at them to just love their little babies and be themselves!! Because that’s okay

  11. karen November 2, 2016 at 7:21 pm - Reply

    And so what…know what I mean? Celebrate the fab mom that you are! Not sure if there is a recipe for what makes the perfect mom…. but as long as you give ooodles of love you are doing amazing, girl!

  12. Theresa November 2, 2016 at 7:30 pm - Reply

    I love this post. Not enough moms embrace this side of them, but there are more moms like this than there used to be! We should have a Facebook group. 🙂

  13. Terri Steffes November 2, 2016 at 7:47 pm - Reply

    I loved this post, because my daughter is grown and I was a made-from-scratch mom… and I am not sure what it gained me… so I hope that my confession inspires you!

  14. Kecia | OnlineIncomeMom November 2, 2016 at 8:27 pm - Reply

    I really needed to hear this! I struggle with perfectionism often. I am coming to terms with the fact that I can only cook 3 times from scratch – and the rest I need a cookbook or instructions on the box!

  15. Ayanna November 2, 2016 at 8:46 pm - Reply

    Love it! I think if all moms could accept that we are not perfect and others would stop expecting us to be, the world would be a better place. And ain’t nothing wrong with Betty Crocker and your freezer is your best friend. 😉

  16. Christine - The Choosy Mommy November 2, 2016 at 9:15 pm - Reply

    I am right there with you! It is rare that I make something from scratch. And when I do, I am praying the whole time that it turns out good. There is nothing more disappointing than spending so much time making something for it to turn out horrible!

  17. Heather November 2, 2016 at 9:31 pm - Reply

    The comparison trap is crazy these days! I look at real homesteaders and wish I could do the same as them, but I just can’t – I mean I live on a city lot…we aren’t getting goats on a city lot 🙂 I figure if you love your kids, you are good!

  18. OurFamilyWorld November 2, 2016 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    I don’t know how other moms do it and I used to be hard on myself because I wanted to be a perfect mom to my children. It took me a while to realize that those are not the requirements to be a good mother to our children.

  19. Reesa Lewandowski November 2, 2016 at 11:01 pm - Reply

    Good for you for being honest with yourself and your friends. I am not a made from scratch mom either LOL.

  20. Dana Vento November 3, 2016 at 8:07 am - Reply

    I’m glad that you are being honest to yourself, been there but you need to let go of that guilt.

  21. Apples & Oranges November 3, 2016 at 8:23 am - Reply

    I’m not that mom either, so I can totally appreciate this.

  22. Samantha November 3, 2016 at 8:40 am - Reply

    I can definitely relate to this; I feel bad all the time for not being a more ‘natural’ momma. Thanks for reminding me that that’s okay!

  23. Jennifer November 3, 2016 at 8:58 am - Reply

    I am not a Mom that does things from scratch, either. And you know what? I no longer feel guilty about it anymore.

  24. Amanda @ Old House to New Home November 3, 2016 at 11:53 am - Reply

    I am a make from scratch type of mom, butttt I majorly failed when it came to breastfeeding…so it is all about give and take. We are good at some things and not at others! But we are all great moms and that is all that matters!

    • Kristie November 3, 2016 at 10:15 pm - Reply

      Exactly! That’s all required of us!

  25. Tabitha Shakespeare November 3, 2016 at 2:18 pm - Reply

    This post felt like it was speaking right to me! I am not that mom either and I always feel guilty for heating up a stouffer’s lasagna instead of making one myself but you know what? Stouffer’s is delicious and at least everyone got fed!

    • Kristie November 3, 2016 at 10:14 pm - Reply

      Nothing like a good Stouffer’s!

  26. Brittany November 3, 2016 at 5:30 pm - Reply

    I needed this today! I feel like I compare myself to other moms all the time! We all need to be reminded to be ourselves.

    • Kristie November 3, 2016 at 10:14 pm - Reply

      I am so glad you got something from this! Thank you for taking the time to read!

  27. CourtneyLynne November 3, 2016 at 7:35 pm - Reply

    Hahahaha as much as I love cooking and crafting, does anyone actually have time to make things from scratch anymore?!?! Unless it’s for the blog I probably find an easier way to do everything lol

  28. Heather November 3, 2016 at 9:10 pm - Reply

    Love this! We spend too much of our time comparing ourselves to others! We care for our families and thats what matters!

  29. taylor Mobley November 4, 2016 at 11:36 am - Reply

    Oh girl. I am not a made-from-scratch girl either. I don’t like it. I have good ideas, but I get bored cooking and baking and don’t get me started on sewing. You do you, mama!

  30. Productive Mompreneur November 5, 2016 at 10:05 am - Reply

    I did a lot of stuff from scratch prior to starting a family, but it takes so much time to do now. Every now and then, I’ll do a little something from scratch, but in an effort to transition back to it, I don’t eat frozen meals as often. I think I may have to just wait until kids are older if I want to do EVERYTHING from scratch. In the meantime, I’ll continue to do what I’m doing and learn to be fine with it when I’m around others who make it seem like a crime is being committed if you feed your family packaged food.

  31. Toughcookiemommy November 5, 2016 at 10:40 pm - Reply

    I’m definitely not a made from scratch type of mom either. I juggle a full-time career along with motherhood so I have to prioritize my time carefully. My boys always come first.

  32. Christina Aliperti November 6, 2016 at 12:40 am - Reply

    I love this! I am not a made from scratch mom either. And you know what? I am cool with that. I am awesome at many other things!

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  34. Megan mccoig November 6, 2016 at 12:56 pm - Reply

    I think a lot of these ‘perfect motherly’ figures are very outdated. We don’t need to stay at home and do all of these things like back then. It’s important to live in the now and none of us are perfect you’re right!

  35. Kiwi November 7, 2016 at 10:37 am - Reply

    Love this post! I appreciate your honesty because I do see so many moms out here making it seem like its easy to be a made from scratch mom and in modern days its harder. It is definitely ok and as long as hubby and the kids are fed well no worries! You are doing your best.

  36. Amaris November 9, 2016 at 2:27 pm - Reply

    Wow. I COMPLETELY identify with this. I am not a made-from-scratch mom either. I had a ton of guilt when I first became a mom that I had to be that way, but I’m just not.
    Great read!! Thanks for sharing!

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